It’s a 2-way Street

Female domination is by definition focused on the female. Her needs, her desires, her pleasure. A superior female can expect to have every single thing under her roof done as she says. She can ask amazing things from her boyfriend/husband/slave. Men in chastity are more attentive and giving than other men. Now while this is a wonderful thing, and breeds real submission – there is a side effect…a serious side effect. Chaste men have boundless amounts of energy. Their entire mind is focused on two things…their denied orgasm, and you – the dominant female. This changes somewhat after time, but not anytime soon.

Having a chaste man can actually be somewhat annoying – unless you deal with it properly. You must acknowledge his sexual denial, and you must heighten it. Do not ignore him. Do not ignore his chastity. Do not ignore his sexuality. His sexuality is the only way your able to never have to dishes again. Never have to do laundry again. Never have to mop, or broom, or vacuum, or drive to work, or cook.

If you ignore your husband/boyfriend’s sexuality when you are first starting off, you are setting this new element of your relationship up to fail. He will become resentful, and most probably call it all off – before any serious training has even begun. This is really not a lot of work, and does not take a lot of energy.

Don’t tell him to take out the trash. Come up to him, put your hand on the prison that has castrated him – rub it gently, playfully…look in his eyes, lick your lips and say “Sweety, if you take out the garbage, it’ll make me really happy – and you know that what I’m happy I simply love having sex…” or something to that effect. His eyes will widen, and he will run to the trash and take it out to the curb before you can blink an eye.

He has incredible amounts of pent up energy that you need to funnel into a constructive place. Using his sexuality and denial, you MUST DO THIS ON A CONSTANT BASIS. Yes it might be annoying and overwhelming at first, but remember…isn’t it easier to tease your boyfriend/husband for 10 seconds than spend an hour vacuuming the house?

You must acknowledge that your husband/boyfriend is hornier than ever – and as previously mentioned his mind is hyper-focused on his sexuality, his chastity, and the method in which he can achieve orgasm. which is … you!

Here is a very nice article I found around the net, It’s quite long so i’ll just quote what I think are the important things pertaining to this post:

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A Sexual Component that Cannot Be Ignored

This is so very important!

Women have never gone wrong by overestimating how important sex is to their husbands. And by sex, I don’t just mean the physical act of sex; I mean the psychological components of sex as well. While men love physical sex, they also desire a level of sexual energy in their relationships that is very often missing. While this is useful information for any woman, it is critical for those with submissive husbands. A submissive husband craves sexual energy (which you can feel free to read as sexual “attention”) from his wife as much as or more than he craves physical sex. He can go without the physical sex for extended periods of time, but he needs the sexual energy to feel satisfied.

How exactly does the wife go about adding sexual energy to the relationship? For starters, she can be sexually playful throughout the day. She can be affectionate with the intent of arousing him by kissing on his neck, nibbling on his ears, and patting him on the bottom as the couple goes about their daily routine. It is particularly useful if as she does these things she is telling him what she expects from him. For example, instead of asking him to take out the trash, sneak up behind him, kiss on his ear and tell him to take out the trash in a soft, sexy whisper. He will absolutely love this!

Remember that this does not have to result in any more physical sex than the woman desires. However, the woman needs to be recognize that her husband’s desire to have physical sex will be higher than ever. She should not make the mistake of ignoring this reality; she should overtly acknowledge it. As was said before but bears repeating, most submissive men are very happy to be denied release (within reason) if their wives make it clear that they are consciously exerting their control over their husbands. Wives can simply tell him that they like having him remain aroused as he’s easier to control. They can tell him he hasn’t yet earned sex yet. They can tell him whatever they want as long as they do not ignore his heightened arousal. Importantly, women should not let their own physical needs go unanswered. Just because the husband is denied physical release does not mean that the woman needs to be denied. The wife should receive all the sexual stimulation (e.g. oral sex) she likes with no expectation that the act will be reciprocated.

Most women would not want to forego intercourse altogether as it is an important and enjoyable component of their sex life. However, when women do have intercourse with their husbands, they should not necessarily concede to him his orgasm. They can have him pull out whenever they feel like it. Consider the benefits to you of keeping him on edge. It is no great secret that after sex men become very sleepy and disinterested in affection and communication. Men have a physiological response to orgasm that is in conflict with a woman’s emotional requirements for cuddling and talking after sex. I promise that any man that is denied an orgasm will have no desire whatsoever to get quickly off to sleep after being intimate with his wife. In fact, he will probably open up and talk as never before. He will dote on his wife, playing with her hair, rubbing her back, and kissing her neck and shoulders. He will behave as if he is just getting to know her. It will be as if the old flames have been rekindled.

When first experiencing this intentional arousal and denial, most men are amazed at what it does to their brain chemistry. The intensity of the feelings that men have for their wives goes through the ceiling. Men literally find themselves anxious to do something, anything, to please their wives. One wife even wrote that her husband wakes up early to do her laundry on nights that he is “deprived”.

Source: Around her Finger

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