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Forced Subjugation vs Willful Participation
The Forced Subjugation approach
This group claims to obtain superior results by making it impossible for the male to escape control and punishment. Proponents of this method usually advocate restricting the male’s movement during discipline to prevent him from struggling or escaping. They are in favor of using higher security chastity devices and sometimes use blackmailing to ensure compliance. They believe that it is natural for a male to initially struggle and try to resist control, but that once he understands there is no escape he will quickly lose any desire to resist (in animal training lingo, his resistance has become an “extinct” behavior due to its ineffectiveness). Some women who follow this method care little about how the male feels about his situation, and often even enjoy seeing their male’s internal resistance defeated (“breaking”). But a large majority of women who buy into this “forced subjugation” training philosophy are simply trying to take their male to the “breaking” point quickly and hoping he will soon come to accept his condition, enabling a milder (and less tiring) form of discipline down the road.
The Willful Participation approach

The second school of thought claims to obtain superior results by putting the male in a state in which he will offer voluntary compliance. This philosophy advocates the training of a male in his inner, mental world. It aims at persuading him to eventually relinquish his independence, in favor of a more fulfilling role in acceptance of female authority. This group claims that the quality of voluntary servitude is long-lasting and cannot be approached by coercive methods, and that it is a male’s self-image and value system that needs to be reframed before lasting change can be seen in his behavior. Proponents of this philosophy do not always refrain from coercion, especially in the beginning stages of training – however, they invariably single out the budding of a male’s voluntary compliance (“willful participation”) as the “breaking point” to achieve.
Different interpretations of male chastity

Any male training approach can much benefit from increased seminal volume, as this fluid is known to function as an intoxicant, overcoming his logic and greatly reducing his mental defenses, leaving ample opportunity for behavior modification. However, while the forced subjugation approach sees chastity as merely a way to keep the male frustrated and receptive, willful participation exploits increased levels of sexual desire in a male to reframe his sexual identity. Willful participation proponents emphasize the sexualization of obedience in a male’s mind, mirroring the all too infrequent ”spontaneous” subservience of naturally submissive males. Obedience and humiliation are sexualized through chastity and by association/anchoring until the male starts to see his own subjugation and self-sacrifice as the most appealing (or the only conceivable) form of sexual relief.
Criticism
Some opponents of the forced subjugation philosophy often refer to it as antiquate or barbaric. However, it is widely believed that only the lack of legal infrastructure has delayed its adoption. In a recently conducted poll, only 15% of women were in favor of a paramilitary “male police” enforcing pre-marital engagement contracts and wedding certificates with male ownership clauses (citizenship resignation, personhood renouncement, personal ownership affidavits). Likely, as feminist groups and female-owned corporations continue to lobby public opinion and policy will eventually change. A large number of women who currently practice the forced subjugation philosophy inside close doors are then expected to come out of the closet tilting the statistics.
Opponents of the “willful participation” philosophy often complain about inconsistent compliance and intermittent usefulness of males undergoing this type of training. However, DreamLover Labs products add to a regular willful participation regimen the many benefits of positive punishment and negative reinforcement and guarantee consistent obedience even at early training stages.
For the time being, the “willful participation” philosophy is poised to become a favorite among newly liberated women. If you are new to male training, unless you have a particularly stubborn male on your hands, you will find this approach a lot easier as it requires less supervision and monetary investment. For reasons of practicality and convenience, most school counselors recommend young girls to solve their boyfriend problems with the willful participation method, further accelerating its spread among young couples.
Source: Dream Lover Labs
A Good Femdom Routine
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This is another wonderful gallery from Femdombride.com – the lifestyle documentary website that follows around a couple that live a 24/7 female superior marriage. It’s a great example of what superior female should do on an almost nightly basis – at least until your male is sufficiently trained. It requires a lot of attention, and a lot of discipline on the female’s end. It requires working your boyfriend/husband’s cock until the precum is flowing, and then having the nerve to simply lock it up.
This may seem easy, but really it takes a lot of training and discipline from the female perspective as well. You still love your boyfriend/husband, and often it’s like a puppy…you look at it’s big round eyes – begging you. You have to be strong enough to deny it. To push it to it’s edge – so that the mental reconditioning can truly take place. You must use this awesome tool, his horniness to make both of your lives happy.
Does the superior female not deserve a PROPER penis to enjoy? Does it not deserve to have all the chores done? I firmly believe that women are the superior end of the species, and we reconditioned males are pioneering a new age. I do believe that there are still men out there (with big manly cocks) that are needed…many superior females love to be pounded and dominated by real men – but as reconditioned sissy males, we are not to decide who our wives/girlfriends enjoy…
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Being a cuckolded submissive husband/boyfriend is extremely hard at first – it is proof positive that we are not good enough, and our egos are initially bruised. It hurts – even if you fantasize about this kind of thing, you’ll find yourself wracked with jealousy and hurt – this is part of the training process. It helps us to realize how valuable our girlfriends/wives are! How lucky we are to have them! And how happy we should be that they are enjoy a cock that satisfies them – that they are enjoying intimacy with someone that can give them everything they want – because be honest…if you could do everything your wife/girlfriend’s lover could – you would not be a sissified husband slave.
Chastity and servitude are our savior – why keep up the charade? Why keep lying to ourselves even? Embrace your dicklet – embrace your constant overwhelming horniness and put it to good use!
Forced Male Chastity
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Chastity is the foundation for almost all male restructuring and training. By controlling a man`s orgasm – the superior female gains control of the one thing that drives men. Men work hard, to buy nice things, in order to attract women – so they can have orgasms. Men go to unbelievable lengths in order to achieve having an orgasm with a female. A smart superior female understands this, and uses it as a tool to work her man.
As we see in this gallery from femdombride.com – Goddess Starla has ordered a CB-6000 for her husband Randy. The most important thing to realise is that just because your beloved husband/boyfriend is locked up and not able to get any pleasure – does not mean the superior female deserves to be denied as well. This is MALE training, and MALE denial!
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I have never found such a thorough documentary style following of any 24/7 couple such as in femdombride.com – it is a completely real insight on what it’s actually like living this lifestyle – and it’s really quite amazingly done. If you are interested in perhaps living a lifestyle that includes male restructuring, chastity, cuckolding and the like – I highly recommend joining this site, as it will give you an insightful look at what the real life is like.
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It’s a wonderful learning tool – for example…I believe that Goddess Starla makes a mistake in this episode…she allows randy to have an orgasm before he’s locked into chastity. When my girlfriend first locked me up – before doing so she edged me for about an hour…made me incredibly horny, and then without letting me cum – locked me up. This gave a HUGE kickstart to my general horniness level, and I was a lot more responsive, a lot quicker. That being said – you must remember, Starla is no professional…neither is Randy…they are a real couple, that have decided to let a camera into their lives to document them. They aren’t amazingly experienced, but they are constantly learning…Starla has learned a lot, and has gained amazing control over her husband Randy. Through constant training, constant beating, and long-term chastity mixed with plenty of tease and denial sessions – you will be amazingly entertained – and almost more importantly…informed!
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Tease and Denial

A superior female I believe needs to train herself a little bit before she can properly train her man. She needs to change her mindset – and change her habits. Habitually, most women in sexual relationships are happy to relieve their men when they are needy. However as a superior female, one of the biggest goals is to keep your man as needy as possible. This is a complete shift in your thinking patterns.
When my girlfriend first started training me, she would catch herself trying to get me off…to cum, so that I’d stop bugging her. It took a little time for her to be able to do what you see in this artwork – it took practice on her part. She had to begin to USE my neediness against me – to keep me horny, in order to do things to deserve that which I ultimately wanted…release.
It is SO important for superior females to pay a lot of attention to your man’s penis – total neglect will have opposite effects. We will believe you just don’t care, and we will become resentful – as much as this is about you, and fulfilling your happiness as a superior female – during much of the training process you need to be extremely involved. Constantly make sure your keeping your man horny, keep him thinking that this moment might be THE moment he gets release…of course, never give it to him, at least not very often. Once a week to start, and after several week – boost it up to 2 weeks then 3, and eventually up to several months in between his orgasms. But all the while, give him a stroke here…put your mouth around his chastity device, breath heavily on it, rub it while you watch a movie together…the crazier he is with horniness, the easier his mental reconditioning will be! Keep him shaking.
Remember – your man is still an individual with a logical brain…you need to interrupt his thought processes…luckily with men this is easy – just keep blood in his penis, and his brain will have less to work with. As long as his cock is full, and his balls are full, his brain will not work properly – this allows for the fertile soil in his brain in which you need to plant the seeds of his mental reconditioning into being a completely subservient man. True belief in female superiority is essential. He must believe that being denied orgasms for months on end is for his own good.
But as always – make sure he knows your getting a cock that is worthy of you on a regular basis. He must not think that you are being denied something because of him. Make it readily aware that you are sleeping with other men, and even better – try and involve him in it. Check out my post on forced bi-sexuality, as it has a few other helpful tips on getting your man mentally reconditioned.
Forced Bi-Sexuality

Forced bi-sexuality is another tool I consider to be of great use to many girlfriends and wives. Forcing your man into experiencing what you’ve had to deal with your entire sexual life brings him down a few notches I think. Being forced to have a cock in his throat will make him understand all the sacrifices you’ve had to make – it will make him appreciate you more, and he will understand how lucky he was when he was allowed having sexual pleasure – and if you still give him oral/vaginal pleasure, it will make him realise just how lucky he is to get it!
I don’t have a huge amount to say on the topic, aside from that when I have been forced into bisexuality by my girlfriend, these were the thoughts that went through my mind. Serious appreciation of all the things my girlfriend had done for me before I started my training, and made me long for the days before my castration (not literal castration, but due to long term chastity, she refers to it as castration).
I chose this artwork because it…well…it turns me on. I can’t do anything about that feeling obviously, but never the less – I enjoy the imagery. Personally though – I have never been forced into bisexuality with another submissive…it was always with one of my girlfriends’ lovers – and I think the fact that I was forced to pleasure a bull instead of another sub, is that it re-affirmed my insufficiency…my feminity, my lack of manhood, my lack of manliness, and helped to secure the fact that I am not enough of a lover, or man to satisfy my partner. These key facts that are constantly repeated are the essence of training…and speaking from the point of view of someone who has undergone it for a long period of time, and is still being shaped and molded…I can honestly say…it is unbelievably effective. It’s been a long time since I’ve even thought of myself as a man, or a male. I consider myself something in between. I am like an eneuch.
Compliance Conditioning
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This video is really quite something else. It reminds me of something Andy Warhol might make – and watching it myself, I was reminded of the feeling I used to get when I was underoing serious training, before I was really completely compliant – the feeling I got when I began to understand that I was a subservient male, and thats how it should be. That theres nothing abnormal about my life revolving completely around my girlfriend – that we are not equals, that other men are not my equal, but they are better than me. More manly, more capable – in every single way.
I suggest watching this a few times over if you are trying to become a subservient male, and if you are a superior female – I’d recommend having your hubby/boyfriend watch this on a loop for a few hours.
Woman’s World – Thoughts on chasity and Cuckolding

It’s a woman’s world…if she wants it to be. Many women don’t realise everything they could have if they wanted it. Never having to do dishes again, never mop, cook, take out the trash…never have to do anything – ever again! Simply by either breaking their current man, or finding a submissive man…by using their charms…a little training, and a little knowledge…they’d never have to lift a finger again.
Many women know this secret – but most don’t, and I blame that on a society that is constantly wearing away at female self-image and confidence. Women undersell themselves, they sell themselves short, even TO themselves. If they knew their own potential – I think they’d be staggered by what they found.
The breaking down and restructuring of a male is not always an easy task – but for many men it’s easier than you might think. Male genitalia rule their decision making…men cannot think when under the spell of a woman’s gaze, touch, or tease. By simply turning the desire on in your man, you can have him do anything. Of course chastity, is required for this, and is probably one of the hardest steps into breaking down your man, however if you can get your man in chastity – your 90% there.
Controlling the male orgasm is at the very root and core of resturcturing your male mentally and physically. You must control that which he desires most….sexual gratification – you must deny it. And – almost as importantly, you must NOT deny it from yourself! Either masturbation, having your man please you orally, or with toys, or even better, while he is in chastity – have him fuck you with a strap-on. All the work – none of the pleasure. Keep the idea that he might feel the glory of having his penis inside your pussy.
Cuckolding is another way I believe is very important to becoming a superior female. Just because your man’s penis is unusable due to either it being too small (which you should tell him on a constant basis), or because it is locked up due to training purposes – does NOT mean you do not deserve a nice thick cock inside you and pleasing you. Just because your man needs to be resturctured does not mean you should suffer any consequences for his innate inadequacies! Make sure your man knows your fucking other men, dating other men, building relationships with other men. It will activate his caveman instinct to compete – to earn your love and attention more. He will work harder for you, he will love you more. It is tough love – but in the long run, you will both benefit greatly!
Forced Masturbation of Puppy Slave
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Forced masturbation is one of the tools in a superior female’s arsenal that is akin to a doctor’s scalpal. It’s precise – not brutish, but inflicts a humiliation that digs deep into the male phsyc. Men masturbate a lot – however for many men it is something shameful at first, and then becomes natural, however it is always something very private and personal. Masturbation for men is a crutch – one that when used against them properly is an amazing tool for breaking down a male, and rebuilding him as a proper, subservient houseboy.
Femdombride.com which I brag about quite a bit because it’s pretty much the only site I’ve found that documents a couple that live in a 24/7 female dominant relationship that involves chastity, and cuckolding, as well as other forms of severe female domination. Have a look at the gallery that I posted and you’ll see a good example of forced masturbation. Taking this deeply private and intimate moment, and forcing her submissive husband to do it while kneeling at her feet breaks down his confidence, and opens up his vulnerabilities to her. It is one tool in an arsenal of tools available to her, that she uses on a constant basis.
Deep humiliation from prodding him while he is in his cage, waxing him, squirting water in his face – these are all things that break his confidence…repetition of these acts causes severe lack of confidence in Randy (the husband) – and it is extremely informative, and entertaining to watch, which you can do inside of Femdombride.com – which updates weekly, and has TONS of extras for you to enjoy. I simply love this site, and honestly I’ll probably talk a lot about it in more posts as it offers SO many good examples to talk about female superiority in the real world!













